Supporting the Abused
If you get a call……
Thank God, because somebody in desperate life circumstances trusts you.
Before a victim discloses, she (or he) will have survived MANY incidents of violence, and tried MANY ways to avoid the violence.
PLEASE TAKE THE THREAT SERIOUSLY.
VIOLENCE ESCALATES as part of a pattern of power and control. The risk for the victim increases once the abuse has been disclosed.
As a friend, caregiver, or other type of support, you will want to be prepared before you receive a disclosure by learning the local resources.
Talk to the people at the Shelter house. Find out what the Crisis Line does.
We’ll be there.
You can make a difference!
Ending domestic violence can be a hard struggle for victims who have been rendered powerless and afraid in their own home, but you can make a difference! Your support and concern can give a victim the strength to say “NO!!” forever to a life of violence and fear.
To show you are supportive:
- Listen – Victims need to feel they can speak of their experience without fear of being judged, rejected, or betrayed
- Believe – Domestic violence occurs within every social strata and within every race, and it is very serious.
- Assure – Assure the victim they are not to blame. They do not deserve to be beaten, nor did they cause the violence.
- Support – Encourage them to see that they still have choices and support them in the choices they make.